Selective flirting

When I first started consciously approaching the ‘human mating endeavour’ as I fondly call it today, with the Game, I approached pretty much everyone, taking a step backwards in value and valuing others. As time progressed I got better in dealing with random people, which has been an enormous asset to me. So I’m grateful to have done that as it opened up my eyes to the riches of people I wouldn’t even have considered before. It showed me a new way of looking at people. It’s like with a decent amount of experience with people, you start ’smelling’ their value, the colour of their character so to speak. Do you know what I mean?

I used to and still do have fixed stereotypes and images of people I meet, but they used to be a lot cruder than they are today. Seeming nerds can be very cool people, beautiful people can be empty. I knew this before, and more and more I’m seeing it, sensing it when I just look at people. A very cool thing. I also think it’s a riches thing. If you feel confident and rich in life, you start seeing the people that feel less confident. In phases when I’m less confident, it’s like panic blinds me from seeing into people. When I’m confident, I see.

Which leads me to the next point. When going out, I’ve started being more selective. I do still need to warm up, in any situation, day or night. Saying hello to strangers is still something I do just because it gets me open and receptive, as well as energetic and flowing with social energy. I guess you could call it ’state’. I don’t really worry about it being there, if it isn’t then it just isn’t and I’ll talk to my friends. But when it is, I’ve now started selecting the people I want to talk to. It’s not conscious like ‘this looks like a valuable person, let’s go and see what I can get’. It’s more instinctive curiosity.

And here, finally, I begin to see the connection between community and real life, and how my progress in the one is translating into the real world. I used to be curious about people but not know how to approach them, or when I did it I’d tend to be a bit awkward, often overbearing to hide my nervousness. Getting blown out a lot and talking to lots of people has granted me a kind of calmness that I can now use to talk to those people that tickle my appetite!

I also read an article where they talked about everyday flirting, like talking to your colleagues and teasing them a bit, laughing to people, and seduction, and how they’re different but that flirting in its essence is a great skill. So all you pimp ass daddies out there, keep flirting, in your own human way. It’s a great thing to do, and many of the techniques in the community can be helpful to learning to be more natural.

One more thing, about being yourself or your best self. I tend to say ‘myself’ again but in the sense that what’s been lying dormant within me is coming out. I’m de-veloping myself, uncoiling. And this feels very myself, which is a completely different thing from just lamely accepting the limitations I’d been placing upon myself and holding myself back, and making an identity out of that. You see the difference? Of course you do

Feels good to write a ‘thank you seduction community’ article for once. I see many guys getting these insights and turning away from a community they invested in heavily for months and years. This doesn’t seem right to me; there are definitely weird things in the community, but turning your back on weird things you did isn’t going to make you less weird because you’ve realised it. It’s a maturing process, and every phase has its use. So al you ‘recovering PUAs’, be proud of what you did. Even the stupid, sleazy pickup lines and routines you learned by heart – it all served to teach you a lesson many will never learn. Well done! Yay