Great post by Stephen Nash that ties in well with what my friends Angel, Nouvelle and others have been saying and doing. After all the quick gratification techniques of picking up girls, here is another way: to actually give things time to grow. This is very good advice for me as I have a chronic tendency for wanting things right now, or as quickly as possible. I’m afraid of letting chances go by, but of course in pushing things it I let other chances go by.
I was in New York last week and saw some RSD disciples give a workshop. I just chanced upon them – I was in a bar and noticed how one guy was particularly apt and energetic, talked to him and soon found out what he was up to 
his level was good, I’m sure he gets laid a lot. But there’s this layer of superficiality about it, I was talking to some girls that told me one of them had tried to get married ‘using a straw’, with obvious disgust written all over her face. I don’t know whose line this is but it’s definitely a text book routine. Anyhow, this is the stuff I don’t feel like doing too much. On the other hand, when on holiday, the above paragraph of building lasting relationships gets a different angle – you can have friends all over the world of course, but it can also be fun to just play like a mo’fo.
Anyhow; I’m a big fan of building lasting relationships with people, making them worthwhile. I’m also a supporter of having a great time on holiday and making some adventure happen; here, I would support a faster approach where you still keep your integrity. Whatever works I guess. Opinions?
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Cruise // May 30, 2009 at 9:03 am |
Haaidi ho,
You will tell me for sure more about your bite in the big appel and other stuff.
Doing whatever works?
Hmmm … that’s still a frame that’s result oriented … but what people really mean when they say this is: doing whatever feels good or natural to me.
Some people feel good in a monogamous relations, others feel better in a polyamourous situation. Both can work and both have their advantages and disadvantages.
I guess it’s difficult to really change your view on this matter as we are often the product of our education.
We are not stuck to that education, but me personally I get a good feeling when I take care of someone else.
Protecting woman is something that makes me feel a man.
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Yesterday my father was very far away in his mind due to pills. He falls a lot on the floor etc.
Remember that boat party in Ghent where I had to leave suddenly. Also then I was called to duty. That’s life.
As he hasn’t washed himself for quite some time, he smelled very bad and my mum has to sleep against him!!!! Poor mum.
So I took my dad out of the bed, carried him to the shower, put him on a chair and washed him thourougly.
You should have seen his underwear ….
Anyway, this to tell you that I felt good helping him and helping my mum.
If you are a goal orientated person, and I think you are P.R., then you might consider this line:
“There is a reword to find in the expression itself.”
When I was sitting on the kitchen table with my mum, I saw the relief on her face.
And the radio was playing a song of Isabella A: “You can always count on me when your life juice dissappears. even though you fall dawn, I will help up back on your feet.”
Sorry if this might sound a bit cheezy but long time friendship is all about this.
Maybe you can share a similar story with us?
Enjoy the sunny weekend.
Cruise
Angel // June 9, 2009 at 3:59 am |
hey mate,
I slept with a model after 3 hours -> it wasnt what I expected…
I dated several women at one time with them knowing about it -> I got so difficult that I had to stop it before it emotionally ruined me…
I was once watching a great movie with my best female friend in her track suit and without make-up. Then at one point, she looked over, gave me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek and said ‘being friends with you, is one of the greatest things that happened to me ever” -> I got tears in my eyes…
And I still get them when I think about it now…
Thats game, think about it…
Greetz,
Angel
Phoenix // June 10, 2009 at 9:07 pm |
What is true game… I guess we all have our individual needs. And style to match. And relationships to match.
So if you’re happy with what you have now, you’ve got game
I think one of the hardest things is finding out what you want. Well, in a way it isn’t, if you look at it from the perspective that there is no what you ‘really’ want, as in fundamental and timeless. I only believe in the next thing you want anymore; there is nothing more than an eternal sequence of learning experiences, the next built upon the findings of the previous.
So if you want to pick up girls in bars, or have a girlfriend, that’s not necessarily who you are or what you’ll be doing for the rest of your life. Looking back, the only principle I can derive from any period that I’ve been through is that while you’re at it, go at it completely and make it happen!
I have been myself like this, and have seen many that talk about a certain lifestyle but do something else, not really committing to what they’re doing, and consequently there is no result, and no trackability of results. If you want to be a loud-mouthed ruthless womaniser, it’s not so much confidence that will give you a big mouth; it’s a question of resolve and commitment. And clarity, and simplicity, wanting one thing at the same time.
Which can be hard, because of course we all want different things at the same time. But any time in life will always have choices. When you refer to freedom it’s the freedom to choose how you will approach any situation – not choosing, as we often find ourselves doing – is not exercising your freedom, in fact it’s being paralysed by it. But I’m sure you know all this.
Like we know so many things, and yet we fail to live to it. Because there is this other voice in us that wants something else, that thinks another way of doing things is just as good.
This is the essential challenge: choosing, simplicity, commitment. Anyone who has this down, in whatever way, shape or form, in my opinion, has ‘game’.