Guest Post – Cruise: Do emotions come in a pill?

I’m excited to present to you a post by a very intelligent analyst of seduction: mister Cruise!

Does love come in a pill?

It’s a question I asked myself after reading an article in the Belgian newspaper.
Professor Larry Young, an American researcher has developed a pill that creates feelings of love (hugging hormone – oxytocine).

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7815095.stm

He says: “Instead, it will be possible for scientists to develop aphrodisiacs – chemicals that would make people fall in love with the first person they see.”

Test on mice showed that, after taking the love pill, these mice stay with their partner, rather then being promiscuous.
After Viagra, this love pill might be the next marriage saver … or not?

In my opinion science is taking itself way too serious again.
For sure it will make some people very rich.
Both others will undoubtedly become depressed when the pill finally doesn’t give what it promises.
And who will/can measure the cases of disappointment?
Staying together doesn’t necessarily mean happiness.
It might as well be the case that this pill creates a FEAR OF LOSS.
In the extreme, people who take it might suffer from severe anxiety attacks, not to mention the blame and blackmail towards the other partner.
Does pair bounding inevitably kill freedom?
Curious to read your responses.

The Natural Approach

Got this from Tim’s blog:

Look at a girl before you approach and really letting yourself ENJOY her. Look at her ass, her face, her body and really SOAK IT UP as a MAN before you approach.

Something inside you should click “Oh yes… this is for me”.

I want you do feel this the next time you see a girl who you like, in the club, or whatever… then walk right up and say:

“Hey… you know what… I just couldn’t continue my day unless I met you”

***pause wait for blush/reaction***

“I was just walking along, minding my own business and then I saw you and went WHOA I have to meet this girl or I would kick myself”.

“I’m XXX”.

Now. Do not run this through your head and picture it going amazingly and having the girl swooning in your arms. Also don’t throw “what if she is in a group”, “what if she is on the moon and I cannot reach her” typer scenarios at me. That is rubbish. JUST GO. GROUP OR NO GROUP OR MOON JUST GO!!!

I want you, before next weeks post, to go out and TRY THIS OUT IN REAL LIFE.

Then come back and report in the comments section here. I will read these personally and actually reply to those who tried this out in next weeks post.

I’ll do the same

How to deal with Last Minute Resistance

Handy video that says it well: look at the body language and most importantly, be prepared to take distance – without reproach (which is often the hardest part :p) – and get her comfortable in your presence again.

This reminds me of ‘Slowness’ by Milan Kundera (a must-read, thanks Fizmo) where he describes a 18th-century novel in which a Chevalier lives through a passionate night with a Marquise – the night is divided into three parts, in which they softly shift phases, interrupted by her reasoned control over the situation. In this way, the arousal is kept up constantly rather than consumed. That may sound medieval, but it actually leads to mind-blowing eroticism. That’s why player girls are so fun to go with, and ‘romantic’ girls that fall head over heels and bare all are less interesting (with exceptions?)

New tactics

So I was discussing the past year with Fizz yesterday, and the various pieces of feedback I’ve been getting. If you’ve been reading this blog, you know most of it already: basically good stuff but not enough connection and also, not enough success with the women that I really like. We were discussing how and where to meet the kind of woman I want to get to know now: night life has a wide variety but it may not be the best place to hook up with someone. What I’ve done a lot so far is hook up the night itself, or drag out the interaction until it was too far. This also resulted in me being busy with women all night, which kind of led to the paradox of having a life yet spending most of it chasing women.

I also thought a lot about my ex lately; having been out of the game for a month or so, I’ve been more lonely (and the Xmas season didn’t help) – there were times that I really missed her. If she showed up on my doorstep then, my life could be looking different right now… But relationship aftermaths go in waves like these, so this is just the way it goes. Hopefully one of the last, because I want to leave the past behind and clear up my mind and heart for new misses.

A nice middle ground I want to walk now: go out, focus on qualifying girls and getting numbers, and spend only the necessary time. Then spend time having fun with my friends/company/date. Of course, if there is a crazy vibe, yow, I’ll go for it. But the main point is to meet fine women to hang out with and do fun stuff with, and not to hang out with them there.

What I want to do, practically, is work on my openings and escalation to phone closing. I haven’t really been doing any theory lately and I’m not planning on launching in it too much, but I will review the ways to open up a conversation with those women that intimidate me because of their attractiveness and on how to make a solid first impression so I can get their number. I’m more confident I can pull my own one to one, but in a club it’s a lot harder with lots of competition and less chances for a good contact.

So at the start of Year 2 in Conscious Relationships Land, watch this space for reports on how that works out!